listening to adults having a chat abt money, and abt how complicated matters surrounding money involved. and a phrase pops out "a leopard can never change its spots". been thinking abt it but this line was the trigger to a few weeks of thought on the unforgiving nature of ppl.
maybe i should clarify first. i'm don't believe in a non-judgmentalism theory. i do believe that there is a right and wrong to everything in life. yea everything. i don't believe antimonies exist... but that's kinda a separate topic. ppl are wrong, ppl are right; ppl are good, ppl are bad. but the underlying idea is that ppl can change. and if they can, well they deserve a re-evaluation don't they? i mean... i doubt that i'm likely to change my opinion that the guy next door (this is so not literal) is proud and selfish anytime soon, but if he does change, i hope my opinion will follow suit. how we view ppl should be based on what the ppl truly are, and not what we think them to be.
unforgiving. it's not in human nature to be distrustful, is it? why do our prejudices always get the better of us? why do our impressions become concrete images? we know that ppl can change. why are many of us so reluctant to believe that others can change for the better?
it's so easy to make a mistake, to make a wrong decision. yet it's so strange that we can hardly recognize this in other ppl. so blinded by the opportunity to condemn someone, we don't see the line of reasoning that lies behind a mistake made. we don't empathize.
the first step to forgiveness lies in empathy. if we can empathize, we can see where that person is coming from. and we realize that every mistake made has a train of thoughts and circumstances that lies behind it. of course, it doesn't make the mistake any more wrong or right - that is determined by the consequences i would think. but understanding how and why the mistake was made makes it more forgiveable. we are all humans after all, surely we can understand and relate to another human being.
"to err is human; to forgive is divine" nah. forgiveness isn't a divine thing. it's in all of us. after all, if we can err, how can we not forgive?
i can't say that i'm a forgiving person. writing such concrete statements about oneself is always the foundation of earning the label 'hypocrite'. in fact, i have my issues with forgiveness too. ppl whom i've formed impressions of because of the negative experiences of interaction, ppl who have hurt me, ppl who differ with me in my opinions... i just hope that if i ever do get the opportunity to give these ppl a second chance, i will remember what i've written here. realization of a philosophy is only a seed of change in a character. sticking to that philosophy, is, then, watering and nurturing that seed. as my bro always reminds me... personal philosophies ain't only for intellectual pride.
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listening to adults having a chat abt money, and abt how complicated matters surrounding money involved. and a phrase pops out "a leopard can never change its spots". been thinking abt it but this line was the trigger to a few weeks of thought on the unforgiving nature of ppl.
maybe i should clarify first. i'm don't believe in a non-judgmentalism theory. i do believe that there is a right and wrong to everything in life. yea everything. i don't believe antimonies exist... but that's kinda a separate topic. ppl are wrong, ppl are right; ppl are good, ppl are bad. but the underlying idea is that ppl can change. and if they can, well they deserve a re-evaluation don't they? i mean... i doubt that i'm likely to change my opinion that the guy next door (this is so not literal) is proud and selfish anytime soon, but if he does change, i hope my opinion will follow suit. how we view ppl should be based on what the ppl truly are, and not what we think them to be.
unforgiving. it's not in human nature to be distrustful, is it? why do our prejudices always get the better of us? why do our impressions become concrete images? we know that ppl can change. why are many of us so reluctant to believe that others can change for the better?
it's so easy to make a mistake, to make a wrong decision. yet it's so strange that we can hardly recognize this in other ppl. so blinded by the opportunity to condemn someone, we don't see the line of reasoning that lies behind a mistake made. we don't empathize.
the first step to forgiveness lies in empathy. if we can empathize, we can see where that person is coming from. and we realize that every mistake made has a train of thoughts and circumstances that lies behind it. of course, it doesn't make the mistake any more wrong or right - that is determined by the consequences i would think. but understanding how and why the mistake was made makes it more forgiveable. we are all humans after all, surely we can understand and relate to another human being.
"to err is human; to forgive is divine" nah. forgiveness isn't a divine thing. it's in all of us. after all, if we can err, how can we not forgive?
i can't say that i'm a forgiving person. writing such concrete statements about oneself is always the foundation of earning the label 'hypocrite'. in fact, i have my issues with forgiveness too. ppl whom i've formed impressions of because of the negative experiences of interaction, ppl who have hurt me, ppl who differ with me in my opinions... i just hope that if i ever do get the opportunity to give these ppl a second chance, i will remember what i've written here. realization of a philosophy is only a seed of change in a character. sticking to that philosophy, is, then, watering and nurturing that seed. as my bro always reminds me... personal philosophies ain't only for intellectual pride.